What I have is not what I always wanted

Dream of having the best toy ever;

Dream of having the best friends in school ever;

Dream of having studied in the best school/college;

Dream of having the best job ever;

Dream of having the best love ever.

These are some of the most common dreams which we all have/had. Some got fulfilled, some do not. But one thing will always remain in us – We never stop dreaming. It is only the inner wish to work for the dream that we start putting efforts to achieve that goal.

We start the initial efforts with enough hard work and determination. But what do you think of the reason behind some of us achieving the set goals and some not achieving it. It may be the lack of hard work, smart work, determination, or something else. But one big reason is the inability to access your progress.

Let us take the reference of the following life graph. We are at the point O. The point we want to reach is A. The journey is the straight line, but there are some things in our life which divert us a little. These things can be our friends, family, or anyone/anything else. That diversion seems so negligible that we find ourselves on the right track. Say right now (after the less diversion), we are at the point which is at 2x vertical distance from the line OA.

I will completely agree with the point that this diversion is too small for that instance. And this is what goes wrong. This small diversion finally takes us to the point B. When we reach point B, we realize that this is not something I dreamed of.

The best way to avoid this situation is to access you at each stage. I do understand that some so-called diversions are tough to avoid; and it will be always wise to return to the right track even if you are at 2x distance from the actual line.

"Life as a Video Game" is Fun

We all have our own interests. One of the most common things which we all love to do is playing Video Games. Why not? We have Strategy games, Action games, Puzzle games, which help us build our Reaction time and Thinking Ability, and most importantly – remove Boredom.

It brings me a great surprise when I see people struggling to learn a Video Game. I myself played Need for Speed (NFS) several times with continuous failures to learn Drifting. We fail, but we always try as we know that it will take time to learn. But are we doing the same thing in our real life? How many times do we try to increase our productivity at work? How effectively are we searching for jobs?

When we play Counter Strike or Call on Duty, we can stay up all night; and when we have nothing to do we often sleep by 10pm. That is just because of the Passion and Motivation, which act as the driving factors to play better and better every time. We have three lives in Mario. When we are killed once, we play the remaining two lives with same (or better) intensity. Aren’t we?

Why can’t we do that in real life? The opportunities we have are our lives. We have it many. When we fail once in something, we start taking it as the end. Why can’t we take it as lose of one life in the game, and go ahead with the same passion and motivation? Life can be fun if take it that way.   

Life is a Race

Life is a race,
which we all have to face,

You can lead,
or can go dead,

You can win,
or can go to sin,

It is all in your hand,
wherever you want, you can land,

You try once, you try twice,
every failure will make you wise,

It is all on you as if you dare,
the efforts will never go spare.

Do you believe?

"To believe is to accept that something is real without having any proof."

Our limiting beliefs tend to hold us back from our intentions and prohibit us from manifesting what we truly want in life. I continue to struggle with this at times but I always chose to believe! Be sure about what you really want. Tell yourself you deserve! Yes, you deserve it regardless of your past or your current situation. You can have anything you want in life. Anything is possible! The universe wants to give you everything you desire! I want you to have it too!

10 reasons to lay you off

There can be any reason for you being laid off from your company. Here are the top reasons for you being laid-off from your company.

1. People who are having attitude problems can face a lay off.

2. Their habit of not coming on time to the office on regular basis.

3. People keep their desk very dirty which may also result a lay off.

4. Habits of disturbing or interrupting others by any foolish act or talk.

5. Inability on concentrate on work.

6. Asking too many personal questions, or trying to master others' life.

7. Some people tend to do more or less than expected. This more or less is always unwanted.

8. People take office as a place for free facility service center.

9. Always cursing the company everywhere.

10. The company is a job searching agent and matrimonial agent for them.

These kind of people are not only threat for the colleagues but also for the company they are working with. Better lay them off asap.

Where is the answer?

There are many situations where we end up asking suggestions from others, who just don't know it. In life, there are many stages where you feel confused. At that point of time, you just try to get an answer. But where is the answer?

If you think that others can answer your question, then I think you are not right. Every person has his/her own life, and have nothing to do with you when it comes to life. They can roam with you, talk to you, love you, hug you; but they will never answer your life.

The answer to the maximum confusions lies inside us. If you will keep on asking and shouting for help, you will not be able to hear your inner voice. So better keep quiet and listen to the inner voice so that you can live your life properly.

Don't let your inner voice sleep.

Tie your Stress

Most of us are having some or the other kind or stress. Some of us have stress from studies, from personal life, unhealthy food, etc. Here are five tips to manage your stress-

1. Go on a holiday and throw your stress somewhere there, so that no one can bring it back.

2. Exercise daily and use your stress in lifting weights. If you have anger, show it to the body by exercise, but don't do it too much. Have your senses with you.

3. Hobbies and interests are very far from us these days. Bring them back, and involve yourself in that so that you can forget about your stress.

4. Do everything with your friends and family. Being alone can make you feel more stressed.

5. Proper food will help you and your body to balance the unbalanced things. Eat well but not too much.

There can be many other things which we can do to manage our stress. I am waiting for your comments to know some other tips.

Have a heart, or Have the heart

Life has a different meaning to differnt people. What I feel about life is this that you always have two options.

Either have a heart or have the heart.

By having a heart I mean to say that there are people who always care about other people. They just can't resist themsleves helping others. It doe not matter where they are, what matters a lot is other should be in good. These people are always loving, helping and giving.

On the other side, we have having the heart people. These are the people who have the heart to do what they want to do. There can be some cases where they are like having a heart types, but they do think about themselves with thinking for others. These people are more towards good for maximum, but first good for them.

I am not in favour of any of these types. It depends on people to people that what type they are or want to be. You decide what you want to be.

Power of Appreciation

We all know the importance of appreciating a person. An appreciation can get many things out of a person, or the absence of it may take many things out of him. Always try to appreciate and thank people around you. This will not cost you anything. The person will feel like a worth and his work will be more fruitful than the previous one.

Do all this without the expectation of anything in return. Truly appreciate those around you, and you'll soon find many others around you. Truly appreciate life, and you'll find that you have more of it.

Try it!!!

Never compromise

We all have dreams, and we always try our best to achieve them. We never care for anyone while trying to achieve the goal, but one of the greatest mistakes which we often commit is of ignoring our near and dear ones.

Our near and dear ones ( not fake ones) always support us in whatever we do. Always remember, they are the only ones who are really yours. You can dream and achieve that by living life in the way you want, but your personal relations are the one which shapes your life.

Never sacrifice your personal relations because of your dreams, learn to adjust.

From spark to fire

I am not perfect. I mean to say that I am not able to do things right in the first attempt. I am 100% sure that no one else can. I have seen many people who have really faced a lot of problems because of others. Those type of people always abuse the damager ( the person who has ruined his/her life). They feel that the damager has completely ruined his/her life and they have nothing left to live happily in the future.

I am totally against the view of those people. I feel that the damagers are the one who ruin a part of your life and later give you reason to go ahead. I am not saying that they are innocent. They spark up your life so that in future if you face any such situation you can create fire. Instead of taking it as the end of your life, you should take it as a learning so that you may not repeat same kind of mistakes in the future. Learn to live with true meaning and purpose now.

Damagers will damage once or to maximum twice,
then it is you who should learn to fight.

Learn to smile

I have seen many people (including me) who just get upset whenever they face any difficulty in anything. Life is all about stuggle and it is not written in our destiny that our bad face will help us get rid of those difficulties.

We always make bad faces to show others that we are having some problem, and that is completely ruining us. This ultimately creates many other problems including bitter relations wth others. I have realized this, and have started working on the same. Making bad faces will not gonna make any improvement in our life, but instead of that it may create some extra problems.

We will loose nothing if we will smile at every problem. I know this is not at all easy but we can start by smiling at minor problems.

TRY AND LEARN..

HAPPY DEEPAWALI

DEEPAWALI is an Indian festival, which is celebrated every year with great joy and excitement. Everyone wears new clothes, eat sweets, burn crackers, and have great fun on this auspicious day.

There are approximately 13% Indians who are not even able to enjoy this festival. All they can do is to wtch others celebrating, or stay quite at alone place. This post is deicated to those heroes, who really are great. They have nothing still they live every minute of their life with no complaints to anyone.

HAPPY DEEPAWALI to all of you, and especially those heroes.

Knock before you enter

What did you do last time when you have been to someone's home? Rang the bell, or Knocked the door. Right? This is what we do because we really need to take permission before we enter.

Many of us knock at the door and remain outside. Even if nobody is replying to the knock, we just be there. Knocking and entering are entirely different actions. this what happens to our real life. Knocking can be the things which we often do, and knocking is really necessary. It consists of reading books, attending meetings, asking questions.

Entrance can be the the extra things which are very important to succeed in the life. Entrance requires much bolder action. It requires one to enter into himself, to uncover hidden motives, to see contradictions, and to realize his actual power for self-change.

Many of us just keep on knocking at the door, but do not dare to enter. This keeps us always at the same place where we are today.

KNOCK AND ENTER, DON'T STEP BACK OR KEEP ON KNOCKING...
AND NEVER EVER FORGET TO KNOCK BEFORE YOU ENTER.

IMS Approach

IMS = Its My Style

It is very common that a person asks another person to do a work. It does not matter how important that work is. It can be good for us, or cannot be. Lets call these works as ASSIGNMENT.

We all have been given lots of assignments to do, and believe me we all are capable enough to do those assignments. We do whatever we are asked to do. Yes, we only do whatever we are asked to do. This is very common in organizations, where the employees are given some or the other work very often. They do what they have to do. They don't have any freedom.

We have another term called COMMITMENT. A committed employee always do more than what he is asked to do. The employees are more hungry for freedom and recognition. If the employee is being given assignments with a power to do what he want, then definitely the result will be much much better.

"JUST ASK A PERSON TO DO SOMETHING, NEXT TIME HE WON't WORK FOR YOU"

FASTER the BETTER

I always take life as Relay race. It is not because of the reason that we have our successor to take ahead whatever we leave for them. I am talking about the achievement of our goals.

All of us have different capabilities, and we all perform using those. Some of us achieve goals earlier than the others. It is not because that they are more capable than others. As I wrote earlier, we all have different capabilities, and the speed of goal achievement is a result of that.

It is just like Relay race. We all start from a common point. Some of us reach the first person faster, whereas others reach comparatively slower. This is not final. There are so many things after that. So, it does not matter who achieves the goal faster, but the thing matters the most is who reach the final stage.

I have no IDEA

An idea can change your life, but where is that idea? We all know the importance of an idea, but we don't get any. An idea requires a lot of hard work, concentration and dedication. And that too in the right direction. Idea can be of anything, it does matter what kind you generate.

Many a times we feel that the idea we have in mind, is nothing but a bullshit, and will not gonna make change in my life or others. In reality, there were many ideas which were being rejected by a person but accepted by others as a great ideas.

Ideas are just like Rabbit. It is very hard to get first two, and then handle them. But once you get an idea of the idea, it keeps on coming.

"TAKE CARE OF YOUR IDEAS, DON'T LET ANYONE STEAL" IT

Wish I could

There were many things which we all wanted to do at some point of time, but we were not able to do that. It is almost impossible that a person has done each and everything which he wanted to do. Sometimes we ignore the things which we want to do, just because of other's perception and thinkings about that work.

At the end of the day, we just end-up having a great amount of dissatisfaction. Today morning, I had a talk with an old lady. She told me that there were many things she had not done just because she was afraid of other's reaction on it. By having tears in her eyes, she end-up saying that -"Wish I would have done that".

This really happens in everyones life. We just ignore the things, and later regret not doing those things. So, never leave anything thinking of others.

LIFE is a GPS

Today, after getting bored of the Industrial Relations studies I just read an article on GPS (Global Positioning System) in cars.

A recent model car with a GPS system provides of with the turn by turn instructions. When you remain on course it simply tells you how many miles until your next turn and whether it will be a right or a left. If you are off course, however, it will either tell you to recalculate or make a legal U turn ahead.

Life is just like a GPS. We dream, and start working in the direction which we feel, is right. We just keep going on, and we do try to take shortcuts or using unfair means in reaching the dream. But, Life has no end there. It will show you such circumstances where it will make you realize of those wrong means, and will ask you to recalculate (re-travel). This really happens, and I believe this.

"JUST FOLLOW THE CORRECT INSTRUCTIONS, OR BE READY TO RECALCULATE."

I do it by my WAY

Most of the decisions we take, are actually not ours. Many of us are doing things which our family, friends, neighbors, or anyone close to us want us to do. Many of us are doing MBA just because our parents want us to do, we are going abroad instead of being in India because our counterpart wants to be there.

We all have only one life, and that too very short. Every time we fulfill the wish of others by sacrificing ours, we add extra dissatisfaction inside us. This dissatisfaction is not visible initially, but at later point of time we find ourself full of irritation, anger, and are completely lost.

"Do what you want to do, don't follow others' wish anymore,
If still you will do that, you will be no more..."