Wish I could

There were many things which we all wanted to do at some point of time, but we were not able to do that. It is almost impossible that a person has done each and everything which he wanted to do. Sometimes we ignore the things which we want to do, just because of other's perception and thinkings about that work.

At the end of the day, we just end-up having a great amount of dissatisfaction. Today morning, I had a talk with an old lady. She told me that there were many things she had not done just because she was afraid of other's reaction on it. By having tears in her eyes, she end-up saying that -"Wish I would have done that".

This really happens in everyones life. We just ignore the things, and later regret not doing those things. So, never leave anything thinking of others.

Quick decision

It is very easy to reach the conclusion, and make hasty decisions. Most of us really do that, not in personal life but also in connected life. Without reading or listening to anything properly, we just want to reach the conclusion because -

1. We want to save our time, or

2. We think that we know everything which is being communicated

Whenever we reach the conclusions with no proper information, we just invite misunderstandings, misconceptions, worst violence, loss of identity, etc. Without knowing the real fact, we are very much liable to commit mistakes. We think we know everything, we are always right, but the reality is something else. Even after knowing the reality, we tend to repeat the same until we suffer.

We should take any decision after looking at the points laid on the table. By not doing this, we just end up being a victim of Pride and Prejudice.

LIFE is a GPS

Today, after getting bored of the Industrial Relations studies I just read an article on GPS (Global Positioning System) in cars.

A recent model car with a GPS system provides of with the turn by turn instructions. When you remain on course it simply tells you how many miles until your next turn and whether it will be a right or a left. If you are off course, however, it will either tell you to recalculate or make a legal U turn ahead.

Life is just like a GPS. We dream, and start working in the direction which we feel, is right. We just keep going on, and we do try to take shortcuts or using unfair means in reaching the dream. But, Life has no end there. It will show you such circumstances where it will make you realize of those wrong means, and will ask you to recalculate (re-travel). This really happens, and I believe this.

"JUST FOLLOW THE CORRECT INSTRUCTIONS, OR BE READY TO RECALCULATE."

I do it by my WAY

Most of the decisions we take, are actually not ours. Many of us are doing things which our family, friends, neighbors, or anyone close to us want us to do. Many of us are doing MBA just because our parents want us to do, we are going abroad instead of being in India because our counterpart wants to be there.

We all have only one life, and that too very short. Every time we fulfill the wish of others by sacrificing ours, we add extra dissatisfaction inside us. This dissatisfaction is not visible initially, but at later point of time we find ourself full of irritation, anger, and are completely lost.

"Do what you want to do, don't follow others' wish anymore,
If still you will do that, you will be no more..."

You say..I'll do...

Our life has become so much lazy that whatever we see, we believe that. Say for example that I have to go to a place (unknown to me, I don't know the way) alone. I have been told by friend about the place and have been given a vague idea. I saw some passer-byes, and asked about that place. They told me the address, and without even confirming from anyone else I moved further, and later came to know that I am lost.

Cool enough...but true. This is what we all are doing. I am working on this...Do you??

Learn to love..

Whenever you do anything wrong, do not ever think of going back and trying fixing things because you cannot fix your past. Always think of the present and future, and if you really want to live your tomorrow in a perfect way, just apologize for your mistakes. Always think about the "WHY" of mistakes not "HOW","WHO" and "WHEN".

Try to love people for who they are, not what they are.

Some reasons to copy...

There can never be a scarcity of Copy-cats. No matter where we go, whether it be school, college, office, or anything, we always have these type of people. Here I have some of the reasons why they copy paste-

1. They have no other thing to do, they just love it.

2. They are too lazy.

3. They are being forced to do so.

4. It saves their time, as they have so many important things to do.

5. They don't trust their work.

6. Over trust others.

7. Easily available.

8. They are just following the trend.

9. Don't know the reason.

10. Combination of above reasons.

These are some of the possible reasons which I can come up with. I am looking for other reasons. Waiting for your responses..

Be a self-learner

With every breathe we take, we get an opportunity to learn something whether it be our personal life, office life, social life, or anything else. Learning, according to me, has no relation to the place. It doesn't matter whether you know the place very well or not at all. What really matters is the way we look at it.

Most of us always look for some other person to come to us, and teach us everything so that we can learn. Today, nobody is having time to do good for others (leave the exceptions). How can we except anyone to come to us and then teach us? I am talking about the professionals because they too get something to teach us.

We all should be self-learners, so as to learn more from all the things we see and face.

Pleasing others...

Everyone of us always try to please others so that they can something out of the pleased person. And believe me friends, while pleasing others we forget to please ourself. It is just like feeding others by being hungry.

We all have got one life, and we have very limited time to do all those things we want. We cannot please everyone we meet in this short life, so we should concentrate on pleasing self not others. We should go ahead in life, and if we please someone on the way, it is like a bonus to us.

I am not talking about the profession which really require pleasing others. Hope everyone of us will concentrate on self, not buttering/pleasing others.

SACH KA SAMNA (FACING THE TRUTH)

"SACH KA SAMNA", best stage to confess. It was a DESI version of "MOMENT OF TRUTH". After changing the life of 50 contestants and finishing just 48 episodes it came to an end. Why?

Are people tired of going for the show?, or Are people bored of watching the show, or People have no more confessions to make?, or some ban? I really don't know the reason because the reason it not known to me. I have never expected that the show will reach to an end so soon.

We are from a country where people give far more importance to daily saas-bahu serials, where the main character is showing the different aspect of life. including 4-5 marriages without divorce, rape cases, disgusting fashion, etc. We really like these serials, no matter how cheap they are. Some of these serials have directly effected many of our life in a negatively. Still they are the best.

When the show "SACH KA SAMNA" started, people were excited about it. But slowly it started revealing the truth, and people started publicizing the vulgarity of the how. We never think before doing it, so what it the problem in confessing it. I think that the pressure of keeping all truth in ourself is far more than that of confessing it.

Hope "SACH KA SAMNA" will be back soon to transform our life.

There is nothing in everything...

We all try to do our work to the best of our efficiency. Some of us do it more than targeted, some of us just finish it, and some of us just can't manage doing it. Why? I am not questioning the efficiency. But, there is one thing which matters a lot, i.e. efforts.

Nothing comes just by a single attempt. How can we expect that we will be able to achieve all that we desire by just some efforts? And the people who take shortcut in doing the work reach a situation which we all know. Don't stop putting your efforts. It is all like a ladder.

"We cannot cut a tree by just a single strike of Axe"

Who are you?

Most of us are not good in academics, practically and other things. It doesn't mean that we are useless. I really don't feel that we are like a black spot in this society. I believe that things doesn't end here. What really matters a lot is our ability to deal, deal with the things which are coming to us.

We too can make a lot of difference. We should be open-minded. An open minded individual may have limited knowledge or technical know how but is open to embrace and munch on as much as life has to offer. They tend to learn from life and apply the knowledge to their own life and seem to be very understanding and have a friendly attitude. Very Human!

On the contrary, we have Narrow minded people. People who know a lot of facts tend to brag, be judgmental and oftentimes assume they know everything. They seem to project a feeling of supremacy and the power that goes along with it and cannot stop down to people that are not equally mentally stimulating. They seem almost academic in their thinking.

This is the basic difference between Open and Narrow Minded, but there are people who are really exceptions. A salute to them.

Who are you - Open minded or Narrow minded?

Touch and Go...

All of us start our journey from NOTHING. I am totally in agreement that whatever we achieve is only because of hard work, dedication, zeal, effort, and risk taking ability. There can be many other reasons depending on the individual. It is because of this that some of us reach the top and others just hang around.

I have seen some people who (in my terms) are really having the above mentioned characteristics, and believe me they reached the success in their life. After just touching the success, they came back to the place from where they started their journey. Why?

Well, the answer is simple. These type of people want to reach the top, but can't be there for long because they stop doing all their work once they reach there, feeling that they will be there. But my friends, it is not true. If you have reached the top, you have to keep working so as to be there for long, and reach higher altitudes. it is just like a slope, if you will keep going you will cross it, if not you will come down quickly.

As Gary Anderson rightly said, "Never stop. ESPECIALLY when things are good."

Copying the success

When is the last time you initiated to achieve something? Most of the things which we try to achieve are already being done by some other person. I am not discussing here the question of good or bad here. It takes a lot of time for many of us to know our real self. Many a times it do happens that by looking at the success of a person we realize that even we have to do the same work.

We always think that others are better than us because they have achieved a lot in a very short time. We always live in such worries. We spend too much of time thinking about their lifestyles and success, forgetting that everything starts by working on self. There is nothing in simple copy paste, but if you really want to do what others have already done, do it with variations and accepting all the changes for improvement. When you see others doing something, just try to identify yourself and start doing something rather than taking worries.

"When the grass looks greener on the other side, it's time to fertilize your own lawn."

You are nothing...Look at me!!!

" While you're throwing dirt, you're losing ground."

This makes a lot of sense to me. Whenever we do something, most of the time we do it without even thinking about the consequences. And when the result day comes, we foind ourselves in a deep trouble.

Think before you do anything, you might be preparing your grave.

Doing something...

What do we do if we see anyone doing bad? We have nothing to do when it comes to doing something. The only thing we have to do is to gossip, to talk about all those bad things which is happening around us. We just sit and talk about those bad things.

In place of just sitting and talking about bad things we can also try to do something. Even that something is unimportant, but I am sure that is much better than gossip. We should think about all these things because even a single extra thing can create a big difference.

" You can sit there and talk about all the bad things that are happening, or you can do something. I'm trying to do something."

Eat your own words

By eating the words I mean to say that one should take care of the words they use, and should admit publicly that they were wrong. I have heard about so many people who have suddenly changed themselves. In a more simple word, I must say they have got some extra negative attitude towards others.

These people talk to people very politely when they are nothing, but once they reach little heights they start showing their real self. The same person who was polite earlier, now speaks without even considering his words. It really doesn't make any sense to them what other people feel because of them. They are now superior, and are on the top of the world.

We should understand other's feelings, and should always be polite no matter how high we are. Nobody is high or low, it is just a matter of your efforts and ability.

" The greatest temptation for destiny is to make a man eat his own words."

Oops!!! I failed again...

I failed so many times in doing different things as I am not different from other people. One of the most common excuse which I always presented for those failures is the difficulty level of the things which I tried to achieve. But slowly I started learning from my mistakes, which I committed in achieving my targets.

I am sure that many of us do present many excuses for their failures, and to some extent we are right because we really don't want to public our failures. But just think for a while - "Who is a real fool?". Even people around you know very well that you are just presenting a best possible excuse. You are making yourself happy, but at the same time spreading distrust in the society.

There can be only two reasons for your failures -
1. You were not having sufficient time in real sense to achieve the target.
2. You really, really, really don't wanted to achieve that target.


So, next time when you get any failure, try to find out your real category. And please never ever get discouraged, and try to learn from your mistakes.

LAND 2 PEOPLE

What are you specialized in? Economics, Marketing, Finance, HR, Astrology, or others? No matter what you are doing, but one thing which will always be helping you is other humans. How? There is not even a single work which cannot be done by human.

Well, I know very well that you all know the importance of human very well, and believe me I have nothing new to add to that. But there was a time when people didn’t know about the real importance of human and the work he is capable of doing. The Babylonian dynasty, the Qin dynasty, and the Ottoman dynasty were having a very clear thing in their mind i.e., to acquire as much land as they can by defeating the opposition. There was nothing bad in that. They really wanted to increase the acquired land so as to increase their power by killing all the residents of that new land.

We also had some dynasties like the Rothschild dynasty, the China Xia dynasty, and the Slave dynasty of India who really transformed the whole picture. I really agree that these people had also killed a lot of people along with acquiring the land. Nothing new in that, but they realized the importance of humans, and it was only because of this reason that they started the Slavery system, which was mainly for getting their works done. This saved their people to do the work, and at the same time work with no cost.

There was a shift from land to people. Everything lies within humans, not in the outside things. It all depends on how you get it done. Now, people are your power, not the other assets. Understand the importance of a human, and see the magic.

Do you know the real problem?

" The enormity of your problems is nothing compared with your ability to solve them. By overestimating the problems, you underestimate yourself." (Apoorve Dubey)



We all have problems, whether it be of family, or of academics, or of personal life, or of any other thing. We all know how to face the problems, some of us do it by getting involved in it, and some by just trying to find the solution.

Facing a problem has nothing to do with our ability to solve it. Only few of us are capable enough to handle and solve the problem. As rightly said by Mr. Apoorve Dubey by using the above quote, many of us really don't know what really the problem is, and we just react to what we see or face. I feel that problems are just the matter of what we feel, and it is only because of this reason that the thing which is a problem to me may not be a problem for you.

Problems also depends on the way we take it. Many of us overestimate the problem, and by that we just put ourselves in a deep pit. By overestimating the problem, we just make it more stronger and give it a full freedom to eat us up. So, please don't underestimate yourself by overestimating the problems.

I really appreciate Apoorve Dubey, and will appeal all of you not to overestimate your problems.

USE YOUR SENSES TO IDENTIFY THE REAL PROBLEM WITH ITS RIGHT INTENSITY.

Forcing to take care...

We all love to talk, specially on our beloved mobiles. If we feel bored, alone or angry, the first thing which comes to our mind is calling our near and dear ones. I have came across many people who just can't stop themselves talking on their phone, no matter it is important or not. And I really feel pity of those whom they call. Those poor fellows have no option. But few us know very well how to take care of those.

Thanks to Tata Docomo for the pay per minute calling and messaging. Now those people have to think before calling or SMSing anyone. Why? They have to much to talk (generally rubbish), now they will take care of their words as a extra word or a second can charge them something extra. Earlier the charge was on per minute basis, and if their time pass the minute they used to talk for the next full minute till it reached the 50 seconds series. But now we are little bit safe.

Thanks DOCOMO...

Reasons to Brag...

Why do people brag? This always remained a question to me, but today as we are done with IR exam, I got some time to think about it. The top 10 reasons, according to me, can be -

1. People lack self-confidence, and brag to make themselves feel better.

2. They really don't want others to know the reality.

3. They get attention, and a place somewhere.

4. They really can't help it, and seriously love it.

5. They have nothing else to do.

6. A kind of inferiority complex.

7. They want to imitate the ones they meet.

8. They are very good at it, so want to be perfectionist.

9. A genetic disorder.

10. Combination of all these.

I really don't know the other possible reasons behind bragging. Hope you will help me in this.

Ashamed of shameless...

First of all I am really very sorry to write this post in this blog as it is not related to the title. The post is related to INDIA ( My Country), so it has an automatic place. Again sorry.

INDIANS....I strongly agree that many of us have made a big mark on this globe, and I really respect them. There are very famous personalities who have made their journey remarkable, and there are many who are doing and not having any name (just for their country). A salute to our DEFENSE FORCE.

Many of us are having a habit. A habit of doing those things which are asked not to do. And I really don't think that you all need a list of it. Lets see most common thing.

Dekho gadha pishaab kar raha hai


Yes. Pi at a place where one should not. But, most of us really do. Are these shameless Indians? I think no. These are only habitual. I really want to now the reason behind this habit of repeating the things again and again even if they are asked not to do.


I really respect INDIA and everything which is related to my nation. Just have a look at the following pictures.

Lalu ji and his better half during national anthem

Self proclaimed "GOD" Mataji Nirmala Devi


Now, I have nothing to say about these pictures. I really respect these Indians, but my respect is more towards my nation. When the same thing was being done by Mandira Beddy, and M.F. Hussain, they were seriously punished. But, what about them?

I really can't see the insult of our national FLAG. Can you?

Thoughtful thought 1

What a word? THOUGHT. There is one thing which is common in all of us, i.e., our thoughts (we all think). Thoughts have no dimensions. They are simple, they are complex, they are instant, they are lazy, they are worth, they are useless, they are real, they are imaginary, they are personal, they are professional, and they are common. But, one thing which is a fact here is this that they all are automatic.

Just think about it. How many times you were being able to have a control over your thoughts?

I will be looking forward for your responses.

Unhide the hidden

I guess you are very much clear with the message I want to give you with the help of this picture. This picture is looking quite funny, but please try to find out the hidden meaning of it.

STOP MAKING DECISIONS BY JUST HAVING A GLANCE OF THE THINGS, YOU MIGHT NOT BE AWARE OF THE HIDDEN OBJECTS.

Mean-moulders

LIFE!!! This four letter word is very simple to write, to read and to listen; but taking it into a deeper sense, it is the most complex word. But why suddenly I am talking about LIFE. LIFE wants everyone to challenge it, challenge in sense of the problems it bring to us. For this one need to have a ability to change accordingly.

Till now, I have seen three types of people. One, people who have nothing to do with this world, nor with their LIFE. Two, people who have a zeal to learn for a better life. Three, mean-moulder (Lets talk about them later).

I don't think that the first category need any discussion. Lets talk about the second category, these are the people who do everything. They watch TV. They dance. They surf internet. They read books. They interact with others. They share their knowledge. They do every possible thing to find something new. But, these people get success very rarely. Success in terms of the fulfillment of their expectations. At the end of the day, they gain very rarely.

Now, we have the third category. The mean-moulders. I really don't know why I call them the mean-moulders, but I think they can better be defined by this name. These are the people who do everything which our second category people do, and believe me in the same way. They don't have any special formula for anything. But, the only thing which differentiate them from all, is their ability to look at the things. They don't go for getting some new knowledge, rather they just search the existing knowledge and keep their mind open. And they get lot of extra knowledge by this.


DON'T TRY TO LOOK FOR NEW KNOWLEDGE, THEIR IS NOTHING LIKE THAT,
RATHER TRY TO LOOK FOR THE EXISTING KNOWLEDGE WITH A DIFFERENCE.

Beat the EMOTION, and earn the MONEY!!!

I feel that Emotion and Money is the world's deadliest combination. People do feel that if they will earn a lot of money, they will be able to take care of their happiness and to live happy life. There are a few on this planet who really run after taking care of emotions.

I am really sorry to write, but I used to think that people take money above emotions. I have seen so many people like this, and I was carrying a feel that people don't give any importance to any emotions (whether it be of self or anyone's). But, I was absolutely wrong about this, and honestly speaking I am really very happy that someone proved me wrong today. Still, we have people with us who really care about other's emotions (I am not talking about the artificial calamity, which we faced today. That comes in the money-caring category).

I hope, "There will be someday when we will be having people who will take emotions over money".

May God fulfill my wish!!!


"PUTTING MONEY OVER EMOTIONS HAS SHORT TERM CONSEQUENCES, BE SMART AND THINK OF LONG TERM CONSEQUENCES"

NOTE: This post is not intended to put anyone down. If you find it related to anyone, please do so at your own risk.

I don't have it. Do you?

I was just sitting alone, and was thinking about the topic to post to this blog. I was really not having anything in mind to write on. Then, I realized that I have NOTHING in my mind. That NOTHING made me think a lot. I believe in NOTHING, and I believe you too should.

There are people who feel that they are good at all the things, and there is NOTHING which they don't know. I really don't know whether their feeling really exists, or not. But what I feel is this that there are so many things which one has never ever thought of. I totally agree that there is no time in our life when we don't do anything. Because even if we sit alone, we are sitting alone.

I have seen very few, who really admits that they don't know it. I admit that I don't know it, do you know it?