Friday, August 27, 2010

Being Alone, or Being Lonely?



"Loneliness is something which we feel,
it may be worse as it may kill."


People are happy, people are sad. People may act, people may remain silent. We do something which is not expected, we do not do something which is expected. Some of us feel happy when others cry, some just start crying when others cry. This is what we are, and that is what makes us COMPLEX human beings.

According to many Psychologists, we are more disturbed by the word "LONELINESS" than "rape", "kill", "death", or "murder". Most of you might be thinking that you are lonely. The greatest confusion comes between the words - "Lonely" and "Alone". These are completely different feelings, and they often confuse us. Let me try to make them more clear.

Let me tell you about the word "Alone" first. It means you are physically near to no one. It is often considered positive for us as it may refresh our mind, generate confidence, help in effective thinking process, or can help solve critical problems. For example, you are a writer and if you are alone, then it will help you think in better way and will bring better results. You may be alone by your choice, or because of circumstances.

Now lets talk about "Lonely". In general, the word "Lonely" is considered as a situation where the person suffers mentally and face negative consequences. The person here feels as if he has lost his identification, his worth, or his understanding. A person can be lonely even when he is in between a huge crowd, or even if he is with someone who care for him a lot. Loneliness is something which kills bit by bit, and there comes the time when serious consequences are faced by the lonely person.

Loneliness is the biggest enemy of the human society, and those who are lonely can understand - why it is. A person can be both alone and lonely too. We all may have touched someone who is really lonely, and is really not in a state to help himself. Help that person, or else he may have silent death.

2 comments:

  1. Loneliness is not about the being physically obscured but it is more of a mental solitude....

    the greatest achievers of the world like einstein, mother teresa, mahatma gandhi, did not had anybody but their ideas to be with them... & eventually they were followed by masses...

    the crux is leave the masses, but never leave your thoghts...

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  2. its jus that when someone is lonely.... inspite of surrounded by people, they couldnt figure out anyone whom they think could listen to them n actully understand them ............

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