Why do I lose always?

They say - "The chances of winning is always less"

I say - "It's Win or Lose. So the chances are 50-50, always"

They say - "Success follows hard work"

I say - "Why the hell God gave us BRAIN!"

They say - "Only I lose always"

I say - "By making this comparative illogical statement, you can now decide how dumb you are"

We all want to succeed in whatever we do, and why not! I start everything with the success in my mind. Honestly speaking, I have got success in only few things I have done, and I am not sad about it. Be it win, be it lose, it is always mine.

Winning or losing is again comparative words. What is Win for me, can be Lose for you. For example, if I wanted to clear my college with grade B+, but for you B+ is a curse. So, it is always you who decides whether you have got success or not. If you have worked for something, you succeeded to do it. If you have not worked on something, you have lost it.

I will finish this post by saying, "You will lose if you will not fight"

Fight for every bloody right of yours, or for anything you want to do.

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Why do we want to go back?

I will call it 'My inability to manage different things' because of which I was not able to post even a single blog post in the last 5+ months. But I am glad to announce that I am back with a pure intention of being regular for all of you.

Yes, you read it right - I am back. Have you ever thought on why we wish to go back to the old days of our life? (I am sure that most of us wish that) For me, the prime reason will always be feelings attached. Ask an American who has been working in a foreign country for more than 15 years and have been meeting his family in every 2-3 years. Ask a kid who left his home just because he got beaten up by his dad for stealing some pennies. Do they ever think of going back? Yes, they do.

Each of us would want to have a great future. But, only few of us were able to take the loved ones with them in the journey. The American working in a foreign country might be earning huge money, but he definitely miss earning that old salary of $500 a month and spending that with his wife and kids. The kid who left his home might have reached heights after leaving the home, but he will definitely miss those slaps from his father. 

We all want to go back, but very few of us have the courage to do so. Take the step. If you are in a situation where you can increase your happiness, go back. Go back and grab your happiness. You can start your journey after taking your loved ones with you.

I Dream, I Do, I Fail, and I Quit

This is something which is common between many of us. There are many situations when I realized that I do not have it in me to work for the thing I want to achieve. That is where I always quit. 

Even after knowing that it is ME who is stepping back here, I somehow convinced my inner self that I would try to do something better than this. That "something better" always replaced another "something better", and I got nothing. That is my story, that might be yours too.

I wanted to learn something out of those failures, so I tried to find out the reason behind me quitting things. Lets take it this way. When you want to push a car, you require an initial boost which has to be good enough to make the car move. But once the car starts moving, all you need is the equal force which will be lesser than what you used earlier.

Coming back to the implications on Life, your dreams are something which you want to achieve. The initial boost required to work on your dreams will be proper homework, planning, self-motivation and support. The initial boost decides your success or failure.

Work real hard and serious till you make your first move. And once you will be make your first move, your previous moves will help you motivating yourself for further moves.

What I have is not what I always wanted

Dream of having the best toy ever;

Dream of having the best friends in school ever;

Dream of having studied in the best school/college;

Dream of having the best job ever;

Dream of having the best love ever.

These are some of the most common dreams which we all have/had. Some got fulfilled, some do not. But one thing will always remain in us – We never stop dreaming. It is only the inner wish to work for the dream that we start putting efforts to achieve that goal.

We start the initial efforts with enough hard work and determination. But what do you think of the reason behind some of us achieving the set goals and some not achieving it. It may be the lack of hard work, smart work, determination, or something else. But one big reason is the inability to access your progress.

Let us take the reference of the following life graph. We are at the point O. The point we want to reach is A. The journey is the straight line, but there are some things in our life which divert us a little. These things can be our friends, family, or anyone/anything else. That diversion seems so negligible that we find ourselves on the right track. Say right now (after the less diversion), we are at the point which is at 2x vertical distance from the line OA.

I will completely agree with the point that this diversion is too small for that instance. And this is what goes wrong. This small diversion finally takes us to the point B. When we reach point B, we realize that this is not something I dreamed of.

The best way to avoid this situation is to access you at each stage. I do understand that some so-called diversions are tough to avoid; and it will be always wise to return to the right track even if you are at 2x distance from the actual line.

Lousy Questions, Lousy Answers

Introspection - what a word! And it will not be wrong to say that it really helps. But what if you do it the way you are not supposed to do it. 

I have seen many people who practice self-motivation and introspection. Some are real successful in this as they really do understand their true self, but some have messed it up. Lets have a look at some of the good questions to help yourself get motivated.

1. You say - "If he can do it, why cannot I do it?" Your inner-self says - "Yes, you can do it too."

2. You say - "This time I will give the best." Your inner-self says - "Yes, you will."

These can be some of the most common questions which you usually ask to our inner-self, and you do get positive answers. But there are many of you who always have lousy questions for your inner-self. Lets have a look at it.

1. You say - "I am the world's most idiot person." Your inner-self says - "Yes, you are."

2. You say - "I am not going to get anything by doing this." Your inner-self says - "Yes, you will get nothing."

Your inner-self is not programmed for giving positive answers only. It works the way you want it to work. You ask positive questions, you get positive answers. Next time, when you practice this exercise keep in your mind that the inner-self works on the same principle of GIGO - Garbage In, Garbage Out. 

Now you decide whether you have Garbage for yourself, or something useful.

Feel Proud of yourself!

Spending last two days in not-so-normal mood, I was continuously thinking of the reason behind it. I had a fight? No. I lost something? No. Anything else unusual? A big NO. I am 100% sure that I am not the only who felt like this, or Am I?

After getting back to normal, I started thinking about something which I am proud of. Why? I wanted to know if there is anything I am happy for. I wanted to know something I think I have done very well. I wanted to know which makes me feel little different from others.

When I say PROUD, I do not mean the dominant feeling of putting yourself over others. I just mean the inner sense of feeling your worth, your importance. Think about any moment, any work, any instance, which you are proud of. It can be you having good muscles, you donating to the poor and needy, you helping others, or anything else. 

It will not be wrong to say that when we feel proud of ourselves, our body language changes completely. The straight head starts looking in the sky, the nervous eyes becomes alert, the bent shoulder gets filled with air, and we start moving as if we rule the world. Isn't it? Whatever you do in that feeling is your best.  

There are many of us who think they are good for nothing, or they get disappointed so early. This post is dedicated to all those friends. You see things when you want to see. You may not notice Red color around you unless you try to. And when you try to notice Red color, you find it even if it is not rarely visible.

What are you proud of?

Decide your Happiness Level

We all dream, but only few of us really meet their dreams. All we want in life is SUCCESS, and why not. We have got lot of working hard ability in us. We have got so much potential in us.

The first thing we do for getting success is dream. By dream, I do not want to differentiate between the realistic and the unrealistic dream as that we will be taking later in our blog as a separate post.

We set our targets, our goals; and start working towards them. As every one of us is different, so are our targets and goals. A poor farmer might set his target to have enough money and food to take care of his family and their wishes. A small businessman may want to turn himself into Business Tycoon. An entry level working professional may want to become the CEO of a company. That is how it is, and that is how it is going to be.

But do we really take the word “Success” as same? Let us define the targets and goals which we want to achieve as Happiness Level. So we all have different Happiness Levels. When we attain that Happiness Level, we call it the achievement of the success. But there can rarely be only one Happiness Level in one life. As soon as we achieve the existing Happiness Level, the current level gets shifted to the next Happiness Level. There are those who have one Happiness Level, and even after achieving only that level in their life they continue to be happy. Not forgetting the third category, there are those who do not achieve their Happiness Levels; reason may be anything.

Life is all about being happy. Success can never be pre-defined. Some are happy after having everything, some are happy after having something, and some are happy even after having nothing. Decide your Happiness Level, and work to achieve it.

"Life as a Video Game" is Fun

We all have our own interests. One of the most common things which we all love to do is playing Video Games. Why not? We have Strategy games, Action games, Puzzle games, which help us build our Reaction time and Thinking Ability, and most importantly – remove Boredom.

It brings me a great surprise when I see people struggling to learn a Video Game. I myself played Need for Speed (NFS) several times with continuous failures to learn Drifting. We fail, but we always try as we know that it will take time to learn. But are we doing the same thing in our real life? How many times do we try to increase our productivity at work? How effectively are we searching for jobs?

When we play Counter Strike or Call on Duty, we can stay up all night; and when we have nothing to do we often sleep by 10pm. That is just because of the Passion and Motivation, which act as the driving factors to play better and better every time. We have three lives in Mario. When we are killed once, we play the remaining two lives with same (or better) intensity. Aren’t we?

Why can’t we do that in real life? The opportunities we have are our lives. We have it many. When we fail once in something, we start taking it as the end. Why can’t we take it as lose of one life in the game, and go ahead with the same passion and motivation? Life can be fun if take it that way.   

3 types of Dogs

There are three types of Dogs. First, those who are calm and never bark or bite. Second, those who always bark and never bite. Third, those who always bite after they bark.

Neither I am writing any thesis on Dogs, nor writing a story. I just wanted to compare humans with dogs. The different behaviors of people around us can be compared with these three types of Dogs.

There are many who fall in the Type-1 category. These people do their work, and let others do their too. These people are calm and cool, and spend their whole life being honest to themselves.

Type-2 category and Type-3 category cannot be identified very easily. This is where the problem lies. We can never know whether the Dog which is barking may bite, or not. These two categories may negatively impact us the most. I am sure that many of us must have faced people whom we will never hesitate to call – “Back Stabbers, Bastards, Suckers, and Anti-happiness” and many more which I leave on to you.

Type-1 is not at all affecting any of us. Let’s discuss a simple and effective way to handle the other two categories. We all must have seen Street Dogs who bark and follow every passerby. What do they do when we turn up, and act as if we are throwing something on them? They run away, right? And if we do the same thing to a trained Dog, it will let us taste the Dog-bite.

Life is synonymous to Risk, so let us bring it here. If we are negatively affected by the Type-2 and Type-3 category of people, we will be having two options – to keep quiet and let them affect us, or to fight back. If we keep quiet, we will surely going to face the consequences. But if we fight back, there are chances that the person who is troubling us is just like a Street Dog.

If you really want to identify between Type-2 and Type-3, just turn back. You will get your answer.


Learn to fight, not to keep quiet.

Hidden-to-Unhidden Ability Shift

We all have some unhidden and many hidden abilities within ourselves. The hidden-to-unhidden shift happens only when the required efforts are put. Confused? Let me put it like this.

When I started learning to ride the bicycle, I did not know how to do it. My brother told me everything which was required, but that was all theoretical. I tried it, and failed several times. I fell thousand times, and finally learnt it.

So, here my hidden ability will be "not able to ride a bicycle", and unhidden ability will be "to be able to ride the bicycle". This shift happened only because of my efforts, right? this is what happens at every moment in our life. We do only those things which we know, and leave what we do not know. We do not know those things just because we have not tried them. Our thoughts just ignore the Hidden-to-Unhidden Ability Shift process.

Always remember - "This shift happens only when we what it to be".

Being Alone, or Being Lonely?

"Loneliness is something which we feel,
it may be worse as it may kill."

People are happy, people are sad. People may act, people may remain silent. We do something which is not expected, we do not do something which is expected. Some of us feel happy when others cry, some just start crying when others cry. This is what we are, and that is what makes us COMPLEX human beings.

According to many Psychologists, we are more disturbed by the word "LONELINESS" than "rape", "kill", "death", or "murder". Most of you might be thinking that you are lonely. The greatest confusion comes between the words - "Lonely" and "Alone". These are completely different feelings, and they often confuse us. Let me try to make them more clear.

Let me tell you about the word "Alone" first. It means you are physically near to no one. It is often considered positive for us as it may refresh our mind, generate confidence, help in effective thinking process, or can help solve critical problems. For example, you are a writer and if you are alone, then it will help you think in better way and will bring better results. You may be alone by your choice, or because of circumstances.

Now lets talk about "Lonely". In general, the word "Lonely" is considered as a situation where the person suffers mentally and face negative consequences. The person here feels as if he has lost his identification, his worth, or his understanding. A person can be lonely even when he is in between a huge crowd, or even if he is with someone who care for him a lot. Loneliness is something which kills bit by bit, and there comes the time when serious consequences are faced by the lonely person.

Loneliness is the biggest enemy of the human society, and those who are lonely can understand - why it is. A person can be both alone and lonely too. We all may have touched someone who is really lonely, and is really not in a state to help himself. Help that person, or else he may have silent death.

Is this Competition?

Long ago, we successfully crossed the "Survival of the fittest" challenge. It is just because of that we are here today. That time, there was no word called "FAIR", no word called "UNFAIR"; our ancestors just did it as they had no other options.

Here we are, having competition in our blood. Always ready to win over others. We have crossed all limits of being unfair. When my brother is progressing, I will push him down and will start my journey on his foot steps. When the best colleague in my organization is doing good, I will be the one who will be a backstabber. When my best friend in my school is getting highest marks, I will make plans to get him into the allegations of malpractice.

This is what we have become. When we win, we expect others to take it sportively; and when others win, let the word "sportive" go to hell.

Are we really made for this?

Life is a Race

Life is a race,
which we all have to face,

You can lead,
or can go dead,

You can win,
or can go to sin,

It is all in your hand,
wherever you want, you can land,

You try once, you try twice,
every failure will make you wise,

It is all on you as if you dare,
the efforts will never go spare.

India's 63rd Independence Day

"I have feelings, but I don't want to share;
I want to do something for my country, but fighting is not just a single way;
I respect my country, but respect comes from the heart;
My country will prosper, but it will take time."

This is what we have in mind. 15th is a great occasion to wish, meet, eat, hang-out, and shopping. Do we really mean to wish? "Mera Bharat Mahaan" se Bharat mahaan nahi hoga. Take initiate, and encourage others.

JAI HIND!!!

"No Arms, No Legs, No Worries" Man

Today I read a lot about “No Arms, No Legs, No Worries” man – Nick Vujicic. We all know about him, and have seen many inspirational videos. So, I do not want to share any of his inspirational stories and how he fought back with God’s creation.

One thing which I can conclude from this great man’s life story till now is – “What you got, has nothing to do with what you can do”. The ability to do things lies within us. There are times where a stupid person (which people call him) can do things which even the most intelligent person can never do. It is just because of the fact that the stupid person wanted to do that, and the intelligent one doesn’t.

What you have, is not at all enough to do all that which you want to do.

Believe in yourself. Look inside more than you look outside.

What do you do?

Every time we meet a new person, the conversation starts with the “name” and “what do you do?”. There are many of us who are doing something which is not our passion, and the “what do you do” from others seems like a big blow to us. You know why? Because we do not want to answer that “9 to 5 shift” as we do not want to show ourselves in a pigeon hole.

We do have our passion with us (may be writing, painting, playing, etc.), but that is not what our occupation is.

Let us try it out like this for the next time. When someone asks you the “what do you do” question, try to respond as – “Currently I am working as a Store Manager, but my real passion is Painting”. You will be amazed to see the results. This will make you realize your true identity, your true passion, your true life. The day will not be too far when you will really be working with your passion, which you always thought of doing.

If you can’t do it, you will always be at the same place. Dare to Dream!

Happy Friendship Day!!!

I cried when I went to school for the first time,
As it was a new change in my life.

I had no one to talk to, no one to play with,
But then I met special someone.

The person was not my Mom, not my Dad, not even my Siblings,
The person was just someone who was just an Angel.

He talked to me, he fought with me,
He loved me, he slapped me,
He cared for me, he kicked me,
He brought food for me, he took food from me,
He helped me, he took my help,
He tried to teach me all that I needed.

That was the past, this is the present,
But he has never thought of changing with this changing world.

He was with me, he is with me,
I pray that he will always be with me.

Thank you God for giving me,
An Angel called FRIEND.


Happy Friendship Day to all my Visitors!!!

Did I say that?

People say and people do; but it is no longer true!!!
Now they say; and later say, " I din't say."


Quite confusing? There are very few of us who really mean all that which we are saying. Be it an acceptance of some invitation, be it inviting someone, or be it anything. We just commit, and forget about the commitment. There are many of us who don't even care about all this, as even they forget about the commitment made by the other person. Just think about the person who is really looking for the fulfillment of the commitment made by you.

I have seen many people who just believe in throwing big words, and when the time comes for the fulfillment they just say that they din't mean it this way. Today, very few people really mean their words; and there are many who are not even committed to themselves.

Think about it!!!

New Rupee Symbol Installation

India has come up with a new symbol for its currency. Here is what economic times published---

"No words can explain my feeling....It is a great honour for me to be part of the Indian history," said a jubilant D Udaya Kumar who gave the Indian rupee its unique symbol.

The 31-year-old IIT-B post graduate in industrial design also feels that his use of Devanagri script helped him clinch the coveted honours.

"Indianising the symbol was very important. I had to be simple and acceptable nationally and internationally. It had to reflect our culture and ethos," Kumar, who would be joining IIT (Guwahati) as Assistant Professor tomorrow, said.

"My design is based on the tricolour, with two lines at the top and white space in between. I want our flag to fly high," Kumar said with a broad smile.


How can you download this new symbol on your computers and laptops?

Click Rupee_Foradian.ttf

How to use it?

Use the grave acent symbol - ` (the key just above "tab" button in your keyboard) with the new Rupee symbol. Just select "Rupee Foradian" font from the drop down list of your fonts in your application and press the key just above your tab button. It will display our new rupee symbol.