I Dream, I Do, I Fail, and I Quit

This is something which is common between many of us. There are many situations when I realized that I do not have it in me to work for the thing I want to achieve. That is where I always quit. 

Even after knowing that it is ME who is stepping back here, I somehow convinced my inner self that I would try to do something better than this. That "something better" always replaced another "something better", and I got nothing. That is my story, that might be yours too.

I wanted to learn something out of those failures, so I tried to find out the reason behind me quitting things. Lets take it this way. When you want to push a car, you require an initial boost which has to be good enough to make the car move. But once the car starts moving, all you need is the equal force which will be lesser than what you used earlier.

Coming back to the implications on Life, your dreams are something which you want to achieve. The initial boost required to work on your dreams will be proper homework, planning, self-motivation and support. The initial boost decides your success or failure.

Work real hard and serious till you make your first move. And once you will be make your first move, your previous moves will help you motivating yourself for further moves.

What I have is not what I always wanted

Dream of having the best toy ever;

Dream of having the best friends in school ever;

Dream of having studied in the best school/college;

Dream of having the best job ever;

Dream of having the best love ever.

These are some of the most common dreams which we all have/had. Some got fulfilled, some do not. But one thing will always remain in us – We never stop dreaming. It is only the inner wish to work for the dream that we start putting efforts to achieve that goal.

We start the initial efforts with enough hard work and determination. But what do you think of the reason behind some of us achieving the set goals and some not achieving it. It may be the lack of hard work, smart work, determination, or something else. But one big reason is the inability to access your progress.

Let us take the reference of the following life graph. We are at the point O. The point we want to reach is A. The journey is the straight line, but there are some things in our life which divert us a little. These things can be our friends, family, or anyone/anything else. That diversion seems so negligible that we find ourselves on the right track. Say right now (after the less diversion), we are at the point which is at 2x vertical distance from the line OA.

I will completely agree with the point that this diversion is too small for that instance. And this is what goes wrong. This small diversion finally takes us to the point B. When we reach point B, we realize that this is not something I dreamed of.

The best way to avoid this situation is to access you at each stage. I do understand that some so-called diversions are tough to avoid; and it will be always wise to return to the right track even if you are at 2x distance from the actual line.

What do you do?

Every time we meet a new person, the conversation starts with the “name” and “what do you do?”. There are many of us who are doing something which is not our passion, and the “what do you do” from others seems like a big blow to us. You know why? Because we do not want to answer that “9 to 5 shift” as we do not want to show ourselves in a pigeon hole.

We do have our passion with us (may be writing, painting, playing, etc.), but that is not what our occupation is.

Let us try it out like this for the next time. When someone asks you the “what do you do” question, try to respond as – “Currently I am working as a Store Manager, but my real passion is Painting”. You will be amazed to see the results. This will make you realize your true identity, your true passion, your true life. The day will not be too far when you will really be working with your passion, which you always thought of doing.

If you can’t do it, you will always be at the same place. Dare to Dream!

Never compromise

We all have dreams, and we always try our best to achieve them. We never care for anyone while trying to achieve the goal, but one of the greatest mistakes which we often commit is of ignoring our near and dear ones.

Our near and dear ones ( not fake ones) always support us in whatever we do. Always remember, they are the only ones who are really yours. You can dream and achieve that by living life in the way you want, but your personal relations are the one which shapes your life.

Never sacrifice your personal relations because of your dreams, learn to adjust.

LIFE is a GPS

Today, after getting bored of the Industrial Relations studies I just read an article on GPS (Global Positioning System) in cars.

A recent model car with a GPS system provides of with the turn by turn instructions. When you remain on course it simply tells you how many miles until your next turn and whether it will be a right or a left. If you are off course, however, it will either tell you to recalculate or make a legal U turn ahead.

Life is just like a GPS. We dream, and start working in the direction which we feel, is right. We just keep going on, and we do try to take shortcuts or using unfair means in reaching the dream. But, Life has no end there. It will show you such circumstances where it will make you realize of those wrong means, and will ask you to recalculate (re-travel). This really happens, and I believe this.

"JUST FOLLOW THE CORRECT INSTRUCTIONS, OR BE READY TO RECALCULATE."