What I have is not what I always wanted

Dream of having the best toy ever;

Dream of having the best friends in school ever;

Dream of having studied in the best school/college;

Dream of having the best job ever;

Dream of having the best love ever.

These are some of the most common dreams which we all have/had. Some got fulfilled, some do not. But one thing will always remain in us – We never stop dreaming. It is only the inner wish to work for the dream that we start putting efforts to achieve that goal.

We start the initial efforts with enough hard work and determination. But what do you think of the reason behind some of us achieving the set goals and some not achieving it. It may be the lack of hard work, smart work, determination, or something else. But one big reason is the inability to access your progress.

Let us take the reference of the following life graph. We are at the point O. The point we want to reach is A. The journey is the straight line, but there are some things in our life which divert us a little. These things can be our friends, family, or anyone/anything else. That diversion seems so negligible that we find ourselves on the right track. Say right now (after the less diversion), we are at the point which is at 2x vertical distance from the line OA.

I will completely agree with the point that this diversion is too small for that instance. And this is what goes wrong. This small diversion finally takes us to the point B. When we reach point B, we realize that this is not something I dreamed of.

The best way to avoid this situation is to access you at each stage. I do understand that some so-called diversions are tough to avoid; and it will be always wise to return to the right track even if you are at 2x distance from the actual line.

30 second Speech by Bryan Dyson (CEO of Coca Cola)

Have a look at the power of effective speech-

"Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air. You name them - Work, Family, Health, Friends and Spirit and you're keeping all of these in the Air.

You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back.

But the other four Balls - Family, Health, Friends and Spirit - are made of glass . If you drop one of these; they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for it.”

Quick decision

It is very easy to reach the conclusion, and make hasty decisions. Most of us really do that, not in personal life but also in connected life. Without reading or listening to anything properly, we just want to reach the conclusion because -

1. We want to save our time, or

2. We think that we know everything which is being communicated

Whenever we reach the conclusions with no proper information, we just invite misunderstandings, misconceptions, worst violence, loss of identity, etc. Without knowing the real fact, we are very much liable to commit mistakes. We think we know everything, we are always right, but the reality is something else. Even after knowing the reality, we tend to repeat the same until we suffer.

We should take any decision after looking at the points laid on the table. By not doing this, we just end up being a victim of Pride and Prejudice.