What I have is not what I always wanted

Dream of having the best toy ever;

Dream of having the best friends in school ever;

Dream of having studied in the best school/college;

Dream of having the best job ever;

Dream of having the best love ever.

These are some of the most common dreams which we all have/had. Some got fulfilled, some do not. But one thing will always remain in us – We never stop dreaming. It is only the inner wish to work for the dream that we start putting efforts to achieve that goal.

We start the initial efforts with enough hard work and determination. But what do you think of the reason behind some of us achieving the set goals and some not achieving it. It may be the lack of hard work, smart work, determination, or something else. But one big reason is the inability to access your progress.

Let us take the reference of the following life graph. We are at the point O. The point we want to reach is A. The journey is the straight line, but there are some things in our life which divert us a little. These things can be our friends, family, or anyone/anything else. That diversion seems so negligible that we find ourselves on the right track. Say right now (after the less diversion), we are at the point which is at 2x vertical distance from the line OA.

I will completely agree with the point that this diversion is too small for that instance. And this is what goes wrong. This small diversion finally takes us to the point B. When we reach point B, we realize that this is not something I dreamed of.

The best way to avoid this situation is to access you at each stage. I do understand that some so-called diversions are tough to avoid; and it will be always wise to return to the right track even if you are at 2x distance from the actual line.

Lousy Questions, Lousy Answers

Introspection - what a word! And it will not be wrong to say that it really helps. But what if you do it the way you are not supposed to do it. 

I have seen many people who practice self-motivation and introspection. Some are real successful in this as they really do understand their true self, but some have messed it up. Lets have a look at some of the good questions to help yourself get motivated.

1. You say - "If he can do it, why cannot I do it?" Your inner-self says - "Yes, you can do it too."

2. You say - "This time I will give the best." Your inner-self says - "Yes, you will."

These can be some of the most common questions which you usually ask to our inner-self, and you do get positive answers. But there are many of you who always have lousy questions for your inner-self. Lets have a look at it.

1. You say - "I am the world's most idiot person." Your inner-self says - "Yes, you are."

2. You say - "I am not going to get anything by doing this." Your inner-self says - "Yes, you will get nothing."

Your inner-self is not programmed for giving positive answers only. It works the way you want it to work. You ask positive questions, you get positive answers. Next time, when you practice this exercise keep in your mind that the inner-self works on the same principle of GIGO - Garbage In, Garbage Out. 

Now you decide whether you have Garbage for yourself, or something useful.