Decide your Happiness Level

We all dream, but only few of us really meet their dreams. All we want in life is SUCCESS, and why not. We have got lot of working hard ability in us. We have got so much potential in us.

The first thing we do for getting success is dream. By dream, I do not want to differentiate between the realistic and the unrealistic dream as that we will be taking later in our blog as a separate post.

We set our targets, our goals; and start working towards them. As every one of us is different, so are our targets and goals. A poor farmer might set his target to have enough money and food to take care of his family and their wishes. A small businessman may want to turn himself into Business Tycoon. An entry level working professional may want to become the CEO of a company. That is how it is, and that is how it is going to be.

But do we really take the word “Success” as same? Let us define the targets and goals which we want to achieve as Happiness Level. So we all have different Happiness Levels. When we attain that Happiness Level, we call it the achievement of the success. But there can rarely be only one Happiness Level in one life. As soon as we achieve the existing Happiness Level, the current level gets shifted to the next Happiness Level. There are those who have one Happiness Level, and even after achieving only that level in their life they continue to be happy. Not forgetting the third category, there are those who do not achieve their Happiness Levels; reason may be anything.

Life is all about being happy. Success can never be pre-defined. Some are happy after having everything, some are happy after having something, and some are happy even after having nothing. Decide your Happiness Level, and work to achieve it.

"Life as a Video Game" is Fun

We all have our own interests. One of the most common things which we all love to do is playing Video Games. Why not? We have Strategy games, Action games, Puzzle games, which help us build our Reaction time and Thinking Ability, and most importantly – remove Boredom.

It brings me a great surprise when I see people struggling to learn a Video Game. I myself played Need for Speed (NFS) several times with continuous failures to learn Drifting. We fail, but we always try as we know that it will take time to learn. But are we doing the same thing in our real life? How many times do we try to increase our productivity at work? How effectively are we searching for jobs?

When we play Counter Strike or Call on Duty, we can stay up all night; and when we have nothing to do we often sleep by 10pm. That is just because of the Passion and Motivation, which act as the driving factors to play better and better every time. We have three lives in Mario. When we are killed once, we play the remaining two lives with same (or better) intensity. Aren’t we?

Why can’t we do that in real life? The opportunities we have are our lives. We have it many. When we fail once in something, we start taking it as the end. Why can’t we take it as lose of one life in the game, and go ahead with the same passion and motivation? Life can be fun if take it that way.   

3 types of Dogs

There are three types of Dogs. First, those who are calm and never bark or bite. Second, those who always bark and never bite. Third, those who always bite after they bark.

Neither I am writing any thesis on Dogs, nor writing a story. I just wanted to compare humans with dogs. The different behaviors of people around us can be compared with these three types of Dogs.

There are many who fall in the Type-1 category. These people do their work, and let others do their too. These people are calm and cool, and spend their whole life being honest to themselves.

Type-2 category and Type-3 category cannot be identified very easily. This is where the problem lies. We can never know whether the Dog which is barking may bite, or not. These two categories may negatively impact us the most. I am sure that many of us must have faced people whom we will never hesitate to call – “Back Stabbers, Bastards, Suckers, and Anti-happiness” and many more which I leave on to you.

Type-1 is not at all affecting any of us. Let’s discuss a simple and effective way to handle the other two categories. We all must have seen Street Dogs who bark and follow every passerby. What do they do when we turn up, and act as if we are throwing something on them? They run away, right? And if we do the same thing to a trained Dog, it will let us taste the Dog-bite.

Life is synonymous to Risk, so let us bring it here. If we are negatively affected by the Type-2 and Type-3 category of people, we will be having two options – to keep quiet and let them affect us, or to fight back. If we keep quiet, we will surely going to face the consequences. But if we fight back, there are chances that the person who is troubling us is just like a Street Dog.

If you really want to identify between Type-2 and Type-3, just turn back. You will get your answer.


Learn to fight, not to keep quiet.

Hidden-to-Unhidden Ability Shift

We all have some unhidden and many hidden abilities within ourselves. The hidden-to-unhidden shift happens only when the required efforts are put. Confused? Let me put it like this.

When I started learning to ride the bicycle, I did not know how to do it. My brother told me everything which was required, but that was all theoretical. I tried it, and failed several times. I fell thousand times, and finally learnt it.

So, here my hidden ability will be "not able to ride a bicycle", and unhidden ability will be "to be able to ride the bicycle". This shift happened only because of my efforts, right? this is what happens at every moment in our life. We do only those things which we know, and leave what we do not know. We do not know those things just because we have not tried them. Our thoughts just ignore the Hidden-to-Unhidden Ability Shift process.

Always remember - "This shift happens only when we what it to be".

Being Alone, or Being Lonely?

"Loneliness is something which we feel,
it may be worse as it may kill."

People are happy, people are sad. People may act, people may remain silent. We do something which is not expected, we do not do something which is expected. Some of us feel happy when others cry, some just start crying when others cry. This is what we are, and that is what makes us COMPLEX human beings.

According to many Psychologists, we are more disturbed by the word "LONELINESS" than "rape", "kill", "death", or "murder". Most of you might be thinking that you are lonely. The greatest confusion comes between the words - "Lonely" and "Alone". These are completely different feelings, and they often confuse us. Let me try to make them more clear.

Let me tell you about the word "Alone" first. It means you are physically near to no one. It is often considered positive for us as it may refresh our mind, generate confidence, help in effective thinking process, or can help solve critical problems. For example, you are a writer and if you are alone, then it will help you think in better way and will bring better results. You may be alone by your choice, or because of circumstances.

Now lets talk about "Lonely". In general, the word "Lonely" is considered as a situation where the person suffers mentally and face negative consequences. The person here feels as if he has lost his identification, his worth, or his understanding. A person can be lonely even when he is in between a huge crowd, or even if he is with someone who care for him a lot. Loneliness is something which kills bit by bit, and there comes the time when serious consequences are faced by the lonely person.

Loneliness is the biggest enemy of the human society, and those who are lonely can understand - why it is. A person can be both alone and lonely too. We all may have touched someone who is really lonely, and is really not in a state to help himself. Help that person, or else he may have silent death.

Is this Competition?

Long ago, we successfully crossed the "Survival of the fittest" challenge. It is just because of that we are here today. That time, there was no word called "FAIR", no word called "UNFAIR"; our ancestors just did it as they had no other options.

Here we are, having competition in our blood. Always ready to win over others. We have crossed all limits of being unfair. When my brother is progressing, I will push him down and will start my journey on his foot steps. When the best colleague in my organization is doing good, I will be the one who will be a backstabber. When my best friend in my school is getting highest marks, I will make plans to get him into the allegations of malpractice.

This is what we have become. When we win, we expect others to take it sportively; and when others win, let the word "sportive" go to hell.

Are we really made for this?

Life is a Race

Life is a race,
which we all have to face,

You can lead,
or can go dead,

You can win,
or can go to sin,

It is all in your hand,
wherever you want, you can land,

You try once, you try twice,
every failure will make you wise,

It is all on you as if you dare,
the efforts will never go spare.